Happy Halloween!


This is just a quick post for the sole purpose of showing off my adorable son. Seriously, Minion Dave has never been cuter–

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We had an extremely fun night at a small house party and I only had two pieces of candy tonight. (A vast improvement compared to last year, when that number was more like 20… but hey, I was pregnant and craving chocolate)

We don’t really celebrate Halloween in the sense that we don’t go all out and decorate our house with witches and ghosts, but who could pass up the opportunity to dress up your 6-month-old like one of your favorite TV characters? Not me!

Hope that smiling face brightened up your day/evening like it brightens up every single one of my days 🙂

~A.D.

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I Guess I’m a Feminist


I have not always been a supporter of “equal rights,” not because I didn’t want equal rights for all people, but just because I had no idea how important they really were. Once I got out into the real world as an adult, I realized that many people still don’t see women and men as being on an even playing field. Women are traded, sold, objectified, forced into marriages, roofied and raped, belittled in the workplace and abused… On and on the list goes and if you think about how women are treated for too long, it can really make you hate the male gender.

On the flip side, being married has taught me that men deserve equality, too. Not all men are rapists and abusers and every human being on the planet has feelings and rights. If men were “allowed” to express their feelings openly as much as women are, they might not harbor so much anger and resentment against women. My husband and I have faced shifting balances of power in our marriage but our goal is always the same: equality and freedom of expression. I want him to express himself and feel valued and I want the same for myself. It’s not always easy, but the alternative (one person dominating the relationship) is simply unacceptable.

I look at the world the way I look at my marriage. Women and men should coexist in harmony and everyone should have the right to the life they want to live. If a mother wants to work outside the home and make the same wage as her male counterparts, it shouldn’t even be an issue, it should be a given. If a father wants to be a stay-at-home daddy and support his wife’s career from the home front, I think that’s awesome and should be encouraged and accepted. Alternatively, mothers should be encouraged to stay home with the house and kids without guilt if that is their calling and purpose in life. Just because you’re a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean you can’t still support the equality and freedom of women everywhere. (of course equal rights aren’t just for moms and dads, but that’s the example I’m the most familiar with right now)

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines feminism as:

“the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities; organized activity in support of women’s rights and interests; the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes”

I always thought that feminism was more complicated than that, or that it meant exalting women above men and trying to make us the “dominant sex,” but it seems to be more about equality and freedom for all. I really wish we had a different word for this idea since it’s not just about “female equality” anymore. I guess “gender equality” is the best term for the idea but “gender egalitarian” is just too much of a mouthful. So until they come up with a better label, I guess I’m a feminist.

Happy Wednesday readers!

A.D.

Attempting NaNoWriMo Again


Jeez… I never have time to post anymore. You would think that being a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom) I would have at least a little time to blog every day, but nope, it’s still just once in a while. I have however still been working on my writing project when I can and I am still on fire and excited for it. Still in the plotting stage for the moment; I attempted to write rough drafts but they would always make me want to change the story or the voice a little bit and I had to start over. It doesn’t matter how long I’ve been struggling though, because I’m going to win this time. To be more specific, I’m going to win NaNoWriMo.

I am going to write 50,000 words next month if it kills me. It’s going to be tough… I have a short attention span and oh my gosh that balloon in the dining room is freaking me out ouch my knee hurts I think I have to pee… Ugh! See?!

Realistically, I know I’ll probably only end up writing about 20-25K words, but still, isn’t that better than nothing? It’s definitely more than I wrote in the past six months. I’m going to tell myself I’m in it to win it because I really really really want to try. But I’ll still be happy if I just get a good, solid start on this thing.

Since I’ve been holding out on my readers for so dang long, I guess I’ll give a short teaser for my book:

Madelyn Andrews has been singing and playing guitar alone in her basement ever since 7th grade. Her two best friends abandon her at the beginning of her junior year of high school and she is left friendless and depressed. Sean Redding is a well-liked, wealthy senior who takes notice of Madi in choir class when she finally gets a solo after two years of trying. They practice together, become friends, and decide to start a band with Sean as the lead singer and Madi as lead guitar. They meet an extraordinary set of twins, Evan and Ella, who play bass and drums and Sierra Lane is born. A rise to popularity, a beginning to a possible romantic friendship, and a horrible tragedy lie in Madi’s future. Will she conquer or crumble?

Stay tuned for more deets 😉 and wish me luck for NaNo!

~A.D.

For the Judge-y People


I think it’s safe to say that the vast majority of humanity hates being judged. It just makes you feel bad. Well I’m from one of the southeastern US states and down here it seems that not only are we constantly judging each other, but the rest of the country (and sometimes the world) is judging us, too.

I have come across so many articles that talk about how “backwards” it is to drop out of college and become a stay-at-home mom (and they make that sound like it’s just a Southern thing. HA! That’s funny…). In all honesty I find the implication that I’m “backwards” completely offensive. I dropped out of college before becoming a stay-at-home mom and the reason for that was because I had zero idea what I wanted to do with the rest of my life at the age of twenty and I didn’t want to waste money and time going to school for a program I didn’t even want to be in at the time. After dropping out, I got married and later pregnant and discovered my true calling: loving and caring for my family. Yes I still want to get a degree and I would love to be earning money right now, but being the one who gets to raise my own son trumps all of that. Three years later I’m still going back and forth on what career I would like to have, but I’m working on that in my head while I’m doing laundry, dishes, and other things that I’m happy to be doing for my family.

Here’s my point: If I’m happy with my life, who are you to judge me? What business is it of yours if I don’t have a college degree and stay home with my son instead of working outside of the home? It is my personal choice based on various factors and I’m not sitting here judging you for your choices, believe me. I have way too much to do. If you have enough time to sit around and bad-mouth people who are different from you, I feel sorry for youbecause I have plenty of things in my own life to handle without worrying about anyone else’s, and I like it that way.

So yeah, if you’ll excuse me, I need to get back to work.

NO JUDGING.

Thank you for putting up with this rant, readers 🙂

~A.D.