Happy Halloween!


This is just a quick post for the sole purpose of showing off my adorable son. Seriously, Minion Dave has never been cuter–

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We had an extremely fun night at a small house party and I only had two pieces of candy tonight. (A vast improvement compared to last year, when that number was more like 20… but hey, I was pregnant and craving chocolate)

We don’t really celebrate Halloween in the sense that we don’t go all out and decorate our house with witches and ghosts, but who could pass up the opportunity to dress up your 6-month-old like one of your favorite TV characters? Not me!

Hope that smiling face brightened up your day/evening like it brightens up every single one of my days :)

~A.D.

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I Guess I’m a Feminist


I have not always been a supporter of “equal rights,” not because I didn’t want equal rights for all people, but just because I had no idea how important they really were. Once I got out into the real world as an adult, I realized that many people still don’t see women and men as being on an even playing field. Women are traded, sold, objectified, forced into marriages, roofied and raped, belittled in the workplace and abused… On and on the list goes and if you think about how women are treated for too long, it can really make you hate the male gender.

On the flip side, being married has taught me that men deserve equality, too. Not all men are rapists and abusers and every human being on the planet has feelings and rights. If men were “allowed” to express their feelings openly as much as women are, they might not harbor so much anger and resentment against women. My husband and I have faced shifting balances of power in our marriage but our goal is always the same: equality and freedom of expression. I want him to express himself and feel valued and I want the same for myself. It’s not always easy, but the alternative (one person dominating the relationship) is simply unacceptable.

I look at the world the way I look at my marriage. Women and men should coexist in harmony and everyone should have the right to the life they want to live. If a mother wants to work outside the home and make the same wage as her male counterparts, it shouldn’t even be an issue, it should be a given. If a father wants to be a stay-at-home daddy and support his wife’s career from the home front, I think that’s awesome and should be encouraged and accepted. Alternatively, mothers should be encouraged to stay home with the house and kids without guilt if that is their calling and purpose in life. Just because you’re a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean you can’t still support the equality and freedom of women everywhere. (of course equal rights aren’t just for moms and dads, but that’s the example I’m the most familiar with right now)

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines feminism as:

“the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities; organized activity in support of women’s rights and interests; the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes”

I always thought that feminism was more complicated than that, or that it meant exalting women above men and trying to make us the “dominant sex,” but it seems to be more about equality and freedom for all. I really wish we had a different word for this idea since it’s not just about “female equality” anymore. I guess “gender equality” is the best term for the idea but “gender egalitarian” is just too much of a mouthful. So until they come up with a better label, I guess I’m a feminist.

Happy Wednesday readers!

A.D.

Attempting NaNoWriMo Again


Jeez… I never have time to post anymore. You would think that being a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom) I would have at least a little time to blog every day, but nope, it’s still just once in a while. I have however still been working on my writing project when I can and I am still on fire and excited for it. Still in the plotting stage for the moment; I attempted to write rough drafts but they would always make me want to change the story or the voice a little bit and I had to start over. It doesn’t matter how long I’ve been struggling though, because I’m going to win this time. To be more specific, I’m going to win NaNoWriMo.

I am going to write 50,000 words next month if it kills me. It’s going to be tough… I have a short attention span and oh my gosh that balloon in the dining room is freaking me out ouch my knee hurts I think I have to pee… Ugh! See?!

Realistically, I know I’ll probably only end up writing about 20-25K words, but still, isn’t that better than nothing? It’s definitely more than I wrote in the past six months. I’m going to tell myself I’m in it to win it because I really really really want to try. But I’ll still be happy if I just get a good, solid start on this thing.

Since I’ve been holding out on my readers for so dang long, I guess I’ll give a short teaser for my book:

Madelyn Andrews has been singing and playing guitar alone in her basement ever since 7th grade. Her two best friends abandon her at the beginning of her junior year of high school and she is left friendless and depressed. Sean Redding is a well-liked, wealthy senior who takes notice of Madi in choir class when she finally gets a solo after two years of trying. They practice together, become friends, and decide to start a band with Sean as the lead singer and Madi as lead guitar. They meet an extraordinary set of twins, Evan and Ella, who play bass and drums and Sierra Lane is born. A rise to popularity, a beginning to a possible romantic friendship, and a horrible tragedy lie in Madi’s future. Will she conquer or crumble?

Stay tuned for more deets ;) and wish me luck for NaNo!

~A.D.

For the Judge-y People


I think it’s safe to say that the vast majority of humanity hates being judged. It just makes you feel bad. Well I’m from one of the southeastern US states and down here it seems that not only are we constantly judging each other, but the rest of the country (and sometimes the world) is judging us, too.

I have come across so many articles that talk about how “backwards” it is to drop out of college and become a stay-at-home mom (and they make that sound like it’s just a Southern thing. HA! That’s funny…). In all honesty I find the implication that I’m “backwards” completely offensive. I dropped out of college before becoming a stay-at-home mom and the reason for that was because I had zero idea what I wanted to do with the rest of my life at the age of twenty and I didn’t want to waste money and time going to school for a program I didn’t even want to be in at the time. After dropping out, I got married and later pregnant and discovered my true calling: loving and caring for my family. Yes I still want to get a degree and I would love to be earning money right now, but being the one who gets to raise my own son trumps all of that. Three years later I’m still going back and forth on what career I would like to have, but I’m working on that in my head while I’m doing laundry, dishes, and other things that I’m happy to be doing for my family.

Here’s my point: If I’m happy with my life, who are you to judge me? What business is it of yours if I don’t have a college degree and stay home with my son instead of working outside of the home? It is my personal choice based on various factors and I’m not sitting here judging you for your choices, believe me. I have way too much to do. If you have enough time to sit around and bad-mouth people who are different from you, I feel sorry for youbecause I have plenty of things in my own life to handle without worrying about anyone else’s, and I like it that way.

So yeah, if you’ll excuse me, I need to get back to work.

NO JUDGING.

Thank you for putting up with this rant, readers :)

~A.D.

So Ready!


I am so excited! I just finished a detailed outline for a novel, which I have never done before! When your outline is 3,000+ words, you know it’s going to be good! This is so exciting!!!!!

I’m not even going to apologize for all the bolds, italics, exclamation points, and overuse of the words excited/exciting. I have earned this! I have waited so long for the perfect story and I have finally found it! I would love to reveal more about it but I want to keep this gem under wraps as much as possible for the moment. I can’t afford to jinx it. All I will say is that it’s music fiction and it involves a strong female lead, a tragic accident (involving not her but loved ones), and a competition that could change her life forever.

I am so anxious to write this rough draft, but I need to do some more research, so it will probably be at least a week to a month before I actually start writing it. However, I have never felt so ready to write a story. This is my time and I can just feel it in my gut. It’s going to happen and it’s going to be awesome. I can’t wait to reveal a snippet of it to everyone once I’m finished.

I know this is short and sweet and a little less than satisfying, but like I said, I have some research to do. Just wanted to post another teaser/update! Ciao for now!

~A.D.

Organizing Life


Life tends to = chaos most of the time. Some people appear super orderly with their lives and the rest of us watch in awe with our mouths hanging open because we can’t figure out how they do it. Maybe they do have it all together, or maybe they just look like they do. Either way, I am definitely not one of those people.

I’m currently ignoring my messy house while my son is napping. Bad housewife. *slaps own wrist*

I guess the reason I’m writing this is more for my own personal benefit. I need to organize my priorities because my life is going to get crazy in the spring when I’m a full-time mom, part-time student, part-time employee at a retail store, and part-time writer. I don’t know why I always end up with too much on my plate (happens at buffets all the time) but I’m really worried that that’s going to be the case once I start my classes.

So here it goes… This is by no means a comprehensive list, but I figured I’d just cover the basics.

 

#1 Priority: Family

Sounds like a cliché, but family is definitely #1 on my list. My husband and my son come first no matter what. I decided to only work part-time during evenings and weekends because I refuse to put my son in daycare, especially considering all the day care scandals in the news lately. Unfortunately that takes a toll on my time with my husband, but he has been a good sport about it and we know this phase in our lives is only temporary.

Things that fall under this category–

  • Family time
  • Husband/wife dates (very important)
  • Choosing a job with the right work schedule
  • Keeping up the house
  • Savoring the moment

#2 Priority: Finances

I handle the budget in our house and it can be more challenging than I anticipated when I first started doing it. Deciding where money goes and why is a huge responsibility. Our goal is to purchase the house/land we are currently renting (which is a beautiful and ideal location for us) and in order to do that, we need to pay some stuff off.

Things that fall under this category–

  • Working
  • Sticking to a budget
  • Looking for odd jobs to boost income
  • Couponing
  • Making temporary sacrifices

#3 Priority: Fulfillment

I can’t really explain why I know I’m going to make it in the writing world someday… I just do. So even if I’m just brainstorming in my head as I’m doing the dishes or the laundry, I’m working toward that goal whenever and however I can. I still haven’t really finished a novel or a script yet (the closest I’ve come was basically a novella) but I’m never giving up on this dream because I will never be fully satisfied until I achieve it.

Things that fall under this category–

  • Writing
  • Blogging
  • Reading books (for research)
  • School (taking writing/business/psychology courses)
  • Listening to music (for research… hint hint)
  • Watching TV (also for research if I decide to write a script)

#4 Priority: Fun

Everybody needs to take some time to just have fun. I like playing phone and computer games in my downtime. If I have an entire day to devote to it I’ll read a book, because once I’ve started a good book I have to finish it. Unfortunately, I haven’t had many days like that lately. I guess I need to just train myself to put a book down and be patient until the next opportunity I have to read it.

Things that fall under this category–

  • Gaming
  • Listening to music (for fun)
  • Reading books (for fun)
  • Watching TV/movies (for fun)
  • Other entertainment

 

So those are my priorities. What are yours?

 

~A.D.

 

P.S., more hints about my current project to come ;) And maybe more than just hints if I feel like it!

It’s been FOREVER!


I am sitting here, almost a year and a half after my last post in this blog, and I cannot believe I abandoned my readers for so long. Let me just say I am SO SORRY! Life happened… I ran out of inspiration… You probably all forgot about me but I need to get back into the writing world. I miss it. I CRAVE it.

My baby boy is about to wake up so I have to make this quick… Oh wait! I never told you about him!

Here’s the new addition to my family (with Mommy and Daddy)–

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So yeah, I’ve been extraordinarily busy obsessing over pregnancy and baby stuff. However, my passion and creativity has finally returned and you’ll never believe what kind of stories I’m writing now… They’re totally different (and hopefully MUCH better).

Sorry to leave you hanging, but I’ll have to tell you more about it next time. Tootles!

~A.D.

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